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Truth and Trust: The Hand In Glove Effect

"The truth must be told, however harsh it may be; it may redden your eyes, but it won't blind you."

- Ahmadou Kourouma



Ah yes, truth, that sometimes elusive element that many say they want but can't handle when they get it, while others lie so much they wouldn't recognize truth if it walked up to them and formally introduced itself. For they have convinced themselves that their lies are indeed the truth. That's not to say there isn't a good percentage of people out there who really want what they perceive to be the truth and can handle it when they hear it. The term 'truth' has been kicked around for eons; it is often found languishing between the untruth and the unknown. I guess you can say that in this context, truth represents the X in an algebraic equation. One will have to work out the problem, carefully analyzing every decision they make en-route to finding what lies beneath the X.

The same holds true for relationships; whether they are family, friends, spouses or bosses, they all say they want the truth. Some even go as far as using the barter system when engaged in a dispute or disagreement to get to the truth. They say... "I promise I won't get mad if you tell me the truth." How many of you have heard that one? We know they aren't being honest with themselves or you because as soon as you hit them with what they say they want to hear, they blow a fuse. So now the question is, do you, whoever you are, really want the truth of whatever matter you're faced with? And, if/when you get it, are you mature enough, emotionally stable enough to handle what you're asking for?

Don't get me wrong, I am in no way advocating for dishonesty to pacify some people's fragile disposition of not being able to handle the truth. Those who know me know I am brutally honest. Which is why I let them know not to ask me anything if they don't really want to hear the truth, or a perspective that is not in alignment with theirs. While we're discussing truth, let's bring another important factor to the table. I call it truth's first cousin, it's name is -- Trust.

TRUST IS A COMMODITY THAT SHOULD NOT BE GIVEN AWAY CHEAPLY!

Truth and trust go hand in hand. How many of you would trust someone you found to be dishonest? I hope the answer is none of you. How many of you have trusted someone who was dishonest and got burned for your naivete'? I'm sure some of you have. I'm also sure those third degree burns you got from ignoring the red flag taught you a hot lesson. Though many of us would like to, myself included, we simply cannot give our trust away so freely. There are some people who prey on good hearts and generous souls. This is why I tagged the title with the subtitle -- The Hand In Glove Effect, truth and trust go together like thunder and lightening. Thunder is the sound that lightening makes and they never work apart from each other. When you find someone to be downright honest, chances are that is a person you can trust. Consistency in truth is an indication of someone who honors themselves, and because of that, they will most likely honor you, too. They will honor you with honesty; thus letting you know that they are trustworthy. But you must give yourself time to observe. Don't just dive in head first when you haven't tested the depth of the water. The head injury you could suffer from the literal act is the painful equivalent to being emotionally distraught over an act of betrayal, the betrayal of dishonesty.

By Craig Samuels
6/19/2018


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